Sophie Cachia opens up about her ‘toxic’ relationship with Matildas star Alanna Kennedy
The ex-wife of a former Carlton footballer has detailed his complicated and on-and-off relationship with Matildas star Alanna Kennedy.
Instagram influencer and entrepreneur Sophie Cachia has detailed her on-and-off relationship with Matildas star Alanna Kennedy following her split from her husband of four years, former AFL star Jaryd Cachia.
Sophie is a former blogger and corporate director of ‘The Young Mummy’, appearing as a contestant on Channel 10 Australian Survivor: Blood V Water.
She became pregnant with her first child at 22, marrying Jaryd a few years later.
But in 2017, months after the birth of her daughter Florence, Sophie’s life was thrown into chaos when a fleeting encounter with a woman sparked a sexual awakening.
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Sophie, who now identifies as “sexually bisexual and emotionally gay”, dated several women over the following years, with her and Jaryd going their separate ways in 2019 after deciding their relationship was no longer romantic.
It was around this time that Sophie began dating Australian rules football star Kennedy, who has made 107 appearances for the Matildas since making his international debut in 2012.
Speaking to Mia Freedman on the No filter podcast, Sophie explained that she took on a more submissive role during her complicated relationship with Kennedy.
“I don’t like to use the word ‘toxic,’ but our relationship has shown signs of it at times, which we both contributed to,” she said.
“Alanna is also an incredibly strong woman. And I’m not saying I feared her out of fear for my safety or anything, but I found myself cowering against someone all the time – on purpose.
“It was such a different relationship dynamic for me. I had never experienced anything like it. So I thought, ‘Oh that’s different, I’ll deal with that.’
“It could have been the smallest decision, but I didn’t have to think because I was told what to do. And I loved that.
According to Sophie, the couple continually argued about little things like “who didn’t have a nice tone on the phone or put a kiss at the end of their message.”
“She was not the person for me, which I can wholeheartedly accept now,” she explained.
“All I wanted was for her to commit — not in terms of the meaning of marriage, but just to say, ‘Yeah, I’m here. I like You’. And it happened very rarely.
“(We broke up) four or five times, maybe. I was gutted every time. And each time, I came straight back.
“She was my drug and I was addicted. And if you ask me why, I can’t tell you. You know, I loved her. It’s as simple as that.”
The relationship ended for good during the Covid-19 pandemic in early 2020, with Kennedy calling it quits.
“The reality was that I had been cut by someone I loved so much,” Sophie said.
“I wasn’t just dealing with heartache. I was dealing with grief and severe depression. And being a single mom at home with two kids full time, trying to keep them afloat. But I was drowning.
“The best thing she ever did – which I can see now, I didn’t see at the time – was cut me off completely. Because she recognized that she couldn’t cut me anymore. neither could I. And I needed her to do it because I would never have been brave enough to do it.
Sophie then met WNBL basketball player Maddie Garrick, popping the question over Mardi Gras weekend in March this year.
“She is my number one. She’s a six-foot-tall glamazon, she’s funny, she’s gorgeous, she’s so smart,” Sophie said. Stellar Last week.
“My kids think she’s the coolest person in the world, they idolize her. Maddie and Jaryd’s relationship is also special – and I only see a glimpse of it because they have their own friendship.
Sophie also told the No filter podcast: “What first scared me about Maddie was that when I met her, I saw so many similarities between her and Jaryd. Which is great, because he’s an amazing person.
“But then that voice in the back of my head said, ‘Well, you left Jaryd and you didn’t want to be married to him anymore’.”